.Monday, October 19, 2009'Monday, October 19, 2009
haiz... sometimes i wonder what makes a family... i always thought that a family is one that everyone is harmonious and happy together, maybe there will be little conflicts here and there, but somehow the conflicts will be resolved eventually with the best possible solution... however, this seems to be a fantasy? haha maybe it seems so for my family (+relatives), after hearing from my mum what had happened during their family meeting this evening =.=
mum came home quite late, about 10 plus, which normally is quite late for anyone in the family except my father. she went for a family meeting with my patental side of the relatives, on behalf of my father, who was working till now haven come home =.= anyway, the meeting is about some housing problems.. it seems like my grandma wanted to remove her name from the combined house with her youngest son, which was the 6th child of the family, but to do so the son has to give her a sum of 100,000 which apparently he do not want to do so. to make things worse, he would not even come for the meeting, instead staying at home. the siblings were furious and rushed up to his house to "make an agreement", which of course, turn out to be a very fierce argument, which also relate to something like not giving my grandma the monthly allowance as what the daughters and sons should do. the eldest son of the family, was what we called the happy man, and that we have never seen him being angry over anything before, as far as i can remember. however, today, he erupted. he banged the table and they started arguing. after a while, luckily, they stop their argument but the problem was not solved and my mother went home.
after hearing this, my sister, my mother and i were talking and somehow discussing about this issue. i personally feel that they should not quarrel over such things and that everyone should give a certain portion of their money to their mother, no matter what she is the one who raise them up and take care of them when they were young. i don't understand why my father would not give my grandma the money. the amount is just 250 dollars, not alot too. though i agree that my father had his own difficulties and that his money were hard-earned money. but the whole family (mine) believes that if he could just reduce the amount spent in gambling, drinking and smoking, he would have sufficient amount to give my grandma. as for the removal of the name from the house, i would stand on the other side, where i would disagree in removing the name from the house, since a large sum of money is involved and i personally think that my uncle do not have the capability to pay such large amount. unless, my grandma decides to just remove the name and don't receive any sum from my uncle.
another issue raised during the argument is about taking care of my grandma, where and who she should live with. she is now living with my second aunt (5th child) and her family where their flat is loaned from someone else. they were complaining that the amount required is too huge for them and that they are unable to sustain it. my sister thought about the first aunt (4th child), she was so rich that she could keep changing her car, designing her house and go travelling often, why not taking care of my grandma, i wonder why too.. but probably she thought that it was too troublesome and she would not want to take it........ and the argument goes on..........
anyway, back to my point, a family, i thought is harmonious, but this family seems to be so..... how should i say? erm stingy? or just do not know what is give and take? i know probably i am not in the position to say this, since my father is one of the "culprit", and also i am too young , according to them, to make any comments on such family issues. but i don't know, when i was young, it seems like the tension is there, always, and that siblings cannot trust each other, which i wonder why... haiz... it all concludes to this: 家家有本难念的经， maybe other families have other issues, or not ( if they are lucky).
+++++ i cherish every moment being with you=)... thanks for being there for me and painted my life with more colours+++++
.Wednesday, October 07, 2009'Wednesday, October 07, 2009
another post for today before i go back to study =.=
sometimes i feel... is really having alot a must? i mean, having everything to yourself, following fashions like changing phones every month, buying clothes and being obsessed with material things a must? sometimes, having alot may not be as good as what many think. for example, in my previous post, having all the good results, which were "good" because health is compromised, is not worth it. no point having all the money and cannot enjoy any rite?
furthermore, we must remember that, whatever our possession is, in this life, cannot be brought with us when we die. and to think of it, everyone will die eventually ( not to offend), so why bother being so obsessed over such material stuffs which you can never bring with you?
in addition, in the process of being materialistic, u might harm your relationship with others, especially with your friends, when they actually gave you a present that were painfully made from their heart and you dun like it because is "cheap". you may think that everyone is like you, being obsessed over phones, cameras and money, but there are still a handful outside that treat those as less importance. and by saying such hurtful things, u are compromising your relationship with your friends for your wants, your desires.. is this worth it?
well, some may disagree and says that it is their right to spend their money however and whereever they like, and we are in no position to judge, since the money is earned by themselves. though i agree to a certain extent, i would say that many compromises many other things like relationships with their families and friends to earn the money that they think is sufficient for them. furthermore, one should realise that our desire is never fufilled, so this amount of money can never be sufficient and enough for one who is obsessed with money.
in conclusion, i would want to stress that, money, handphones, cameras... are not limited to a certain amount or brand or model, and because of this our desires can never be fufilled and so we should not be obsessed over it and should place more emphasis on more important things mentioned earlier. i'm not saying that we should not purchase all these things, and should live in some remote area to meditate our lives, but my point is, do not be too obsessed.
+++++ i cherish every moment being with you=)... thanks for being there for me and painted my life with more colours+++++
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lol.. cant believe it.. A levels will come in about less than 1 mth now.. hmm... somehow, i feel very irritated for its coming leh.. a bit nervous for CLL and GP, haha but i think i haf done so much prepration for chem such that i now get sick every tuesday.. ( CHEM ASP) =p... one year passed by so quickly, and i didnt really get to know this year and it just flew past me again.. this is not the first time le... during O levels, everyday seems the same old boring days for me... but at least, for this A levels, i never compromise my health for the results (except today=p), and expectally my results got worse? LOL but i still feel that health more important ba, no point ruining my own health to get to some prestigious course and getting good job with decent pay and in the end using all the money earned to pay for my medical fees rite? haha so i would say i am more carefree these 2 years ba? which i like it since i feel less tensed up and less dark circles around my eyes =) furthermore, i can be more focus now in lessons and be able to absorb more too... =) so, my main point is to tell people who were following my old footsteps ( staying up to study), think of the consequences and also weigh the pros and cons before deciding on what to do... i would not say that buring midnight oil is bad and NO ONE should do it, i'm just saying that we should be aware of the consequences and do not overdo it.. one or two days of midnight oil is ok, but to do it on a everyday basis is not advisable.. =) heed this advice, because i'm also one of the 过来人... lol...
(specially go out to some of my juniors who are seriously trying this method for their O levels..)
+++++ i cherish every moment being with you=)... thanks for being there for me and painted my life with more colours+++++
